When the Inner Holding Pattern Breaks: What Brings People Here
There’s a moment—not always dramatic, but quietly definitive—when something inside you whispers, “I can’t keep doing it this way.”
It’s not that things are falling apart. From the outside, it might even look like you’ve got it together. Career? Check. Family? Holding steady. Calendar? Overflowing, thanks for asking.
But underneath all the managing, maintaining, mediating… something’s missing. Or rather, someone.
You.
The quiet signs you’ve lost connection with yourself
You might not name it that way. It might start with insomnia. A short fuse. A sense that your relationships are skimming the surface. Or the creeping feeling that success came at the cost of something you can’t quite name.
For some, it’s a big event—a loss, a betrayal, a burnout—that breaks the pattern.
For others, it’s subtle:
Snapping at people you care about, and then instantly regretting it.
Saying “yes” when your gut is screaming “no.”
Wondering why you feel nothing even when life looks good on paper.
Or simply waking up with that dull ache of “Is this really it?”
If this is where you are—first, take a breath. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re just in a very human moment: realizing that your current strategies have outlived their usefulness.
And that maybe, just maybe, there’s another way.
What brings people to mindful coaching
When people find their way to me, they’re usually not new to self-awareness. They’ve read the books. Maybe done therapy. They know their “stuff.” But knowing hasn’t quite translated into living differently.
That’s because insight alone doesn’t shift old patterns. It takes something deeper:
A safe space. A skilled presence. A way to befriend the parts of you that are working overtime to hold it all together.
Parts that aren’t wrong or bad—they’re just tired. And they’re waiting for leadership from you.
Not the perfectionist you, or the people-pleasing you.
The Self-led you—calm, clear, compassionate, connected.
That’s the work we do together.
If you’re here, it means something
You didn’t land on my site by accident. You’re already listening to something inside—a wise part that’s ready for a new kind of relationship with your inner world. One built on trust, not control. Curiosity, not critique.
You may not know exactly what you need yet. That’s okay. You don’t have to have it all figured out before reaching out. (Honestly, that’s kind of the point—we figure it out together.)
So if something stirred in you while reading this… pause for a moment. Put a hand on your chest. Feel that you’re not alone in this.
Then, when you’re ready, you can book a free intro call or just send a message and say,
“Hey, I think I might be in that holding pattern you were talking about.”
I’ll know what you mean.
And I’ll be here when you're ready.
—Michael