1:1 Coaching

For people who've already done real work, and still get hijacked by the same relationship, every time.

You don't need another framework. You already understand your patterns fluently. What you're missing isn't understanding, it's the ability to respond instead of react when it actually matters.


WHAT THIS IS

This isn't just coaching. It's an invitation to meet an important part of you, one you probably know less well than the others.

You're already fluent in your reactive parts: the one that freezes thirty seconds into the conversation, or goes quiet when it should say something, or over-explains until the room goes cold. What's harder to access, and easier to lose touch with, is a part that's been there all along, the one that can actually choose: clear, connected, curious, even under pressure. I call it the Core Self. The work distills to two moves: sustaining that identification when it's already there, or waking from the dream of whichever part has taken over, and returning to it when it's not. That's the whole site of this work.



WHAT A SESSION ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE

We start with what's live, right here in the room.

Sometimes that's something from the past week. Sometimes it's a familiar groove, a pattern we've worked with together before. Either way, we're not rehashing the story, just bringing enough of it to mind to find where it lives in you today.

Then we slow down.

I might ask you to notice where it lives in your body right now, as we work with it together. Not to change anything yet. Just to notice. A tightening, maybe. A held breath. Something in the jaw, or the chest, or somewhere you wouldn't have expected.

We get curious about it. What was that part of you trying to protect? What was it afraid would happen if it didn't step in?

Eventually, we might move to practicing right there in the room: what it would feel like to respond differently. To catch the pattern a few seconds earlier. To stay in your body instead of leaving it.

Between sessions, you're not left with a workbook. You're left with a felt sense of what changed, and the chance to notice it showing up in your actual life before we meet again.



"Catch it earlier. Return faster."

STRUCTURE

Sessions are weekly, and held virtually over Zoom.

Between sessions, the practice is small on purpose: five to ten minutes a day, or a few one- to two-minute check-ins scattered through your day, right when the pattern actually shows up. Sometimes there's a bit of reflection or journaling. None of it is built to take over your life. It's built to fit inside it.

You can reach me by email between sessions. This work doesn't stop when the call ends, and neither does the support.



WHY THIS APPROACH

Parts work.

We use Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help you recognize the specific part of you that takes over when this relationship gets activated. Not to get rid of it. To understand what it's protecting, so you have a choice about whether it drives.

Somatic work.

Using Hakomi and other body-centered methods, we work with what's actually happening in your body, not just what you can say about it afterward. The reaction you're trying to change doesn't live in your thinking. It lives in your body.

Stop settling for insight that doesn't transfer.

You can understand a pattern completely and still get run by it. This work closes the gap between what you know and what your body does under pressure.


WHAT YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH

  • A specific understanding of what happens inside you the moment this relationship gets activated

  • The ability to catch the pattern earlier, sometimes days before the moment itself. An invitation to a party can activate the anxious part of you well before you ever walk in the door, and you'll learn to recognize that early activation instead of only noticing it once you're already in the room

  • A way to repair faster, with less collapse and less blame, when you do get caught

  • A nervous system that can stay in the room a little longer before it needs to leave

  • Less shame about the moments you still lose. Those will keep happening. The work is shortening the distance back.

INVESTMENT

The 1:1 coaching program is bespoke for each person, and priced accordingly once we've talked.

I've kept it this way on purpose. This work goes as deep as your specific situation calls for, and a fixed package tends to either undersell what you need or sell you things you don't. A conversation first means the structure actually fits the problem, rather than the other way around.

I don't offer one-off sessions. This kind of change happens over a series, and we'll talk through what that series looks like for you before you commit to anything.

Please reach out and we'll figure out together whether this is the right fit, and what it would look like.